You may recall in a previous blog post I shared a video conversation I had with Davide Di Giorgio who is affectionately known as The Unapologetic Speaker because he helps entrepreneurs to embrace themselves and become confident speakers by sharing authentically with their audience.  Here is a reminder of that blog post

Now Davide is coming out with his book ‘Being Unapologetic’, to spread his knowledge and wisdom further in order to make a difference and impact as many people who could do with his insights

 

In ‘Being Unapologetic’, Davide shares directly from his journey rather than a textbook on how he discovered his ‘own voice’ and how he relays his message to the world in an empowering way.

In a world where so many entrepreneurs are focussed on performance and results, Davide’s book re-orientates you to the core issues which will ultimately enable you to be more impactful if you embrace its teachings

I have had a sneak peek into Davide’s book. Here is some of what is covered:-

Across 3 parts, Davide covers the core issues of discovering your purpose, developing leadership and delivering your vision

The clue is in the word ‘being’ and so it’s no surprise that Davide starts with you, understanding who you are, discovering your own truth, embracing yourself, your gifts and talents in celebratory style

In the leadership part, Davide also addresses radical accountability, being unreasonable, taking a stand for what you believe in and embracing difference as normal.

Finally, he covers what it means to be truly unforgettable and unstoppable when it comes to delivering your vision

I like to use this as a framework to evaluate, tweak and adjust my own speaking, and my own reflection is to go beyond whether I am familiar with what I am reading to asking myself how well I apply the knowledge since this is what informs me of the areas that need my attention if I am to improve and grow in my own practice

Davide’s book takes an ‘inside-out’ approach and will give you much-needed clarity and confidence where your own voice and message are concerned, so that you can map out your own speaking journey going forward and share with greater ease and boldness.

Davide has also integrated another aspect of his mission which is dear to his heart, and that is the work with performing art students across the globe to help them develop authentically and to confidently express their gifts boldy without apology

With the forthcoming launch of his book on August 22nd there is an opportunity for everyone to benefit because the price will be only 99 cents, but if you are like me and prefer to thumb through a physical book you can pre-order below and get free international shipping for a while. Or order both and access helpful additional resources as a bonus.

To learn more about how the purchase of his book will help you while supporting performing arts students across the globe, click here

Thank you Davide for being unapologetic and sharing your message and mission with the world

To Your Success and Wellbeing

Anita

The word ‘spiritual’ is a touchy subject for many people and one that causes much resistance when it comes to applying it to business because it is often associated with religion. Additionally, many entrepreneurs consider it irrelevant to business.

I find the opposite to be true. Not only has it been relevant for me. It is difficult to operate to my full potential without it. Whether we accept it or not we all have a spiritual dimension, just as we have a physical, mental and emotional dimension to us

In fact, science is constantly affirming now what so many spiritual commentaries have been stating for years through a more instinctive place. When you talk about a human being showing great spirit, you are acknowledging that part of you – the spiritual dimension

You only need to take a look at the work of organizations like HeartMath, to start to grasp the significance of the heart in daily living as well as how it can impact business.

Scientists are becoming more aware of the field of energy that encompasses the heart, likening it to another brain with even greater amplitude

When I refer to spiritual intelligence here I am not talking about religion. The two are not the same although they can overlap. James Twyman, author of The Moses Code offers a useful distinction when referring to this.

He summarises that many religious people tend to operate as if God is out there, as if heaven or hell is a place you go to after death, depending on how your life has been lived in accordance with religious rules, and that therefore God’s love is conditional.  

On the other hand he offers that spiritual people are not attached to a religious order and ‘know that there’s no separation between themselves and their Divine Source…that Jesus was correct when he said “The Kingdom of God is within you” and ‘know that God’s love is eternal and unconditional’ and that through this their soul’s potential is revealed.

To bring this down to earth, when you exercise such things as an open heart and engage your intuition, you are engaging your spirit, which has a great capacity to reveal your potential and utilize it for good. You may name this force, universal intelligence or higher power, or higher self. It doesn’t matter

The key is that the spiritual aspect of ourselves is not confined to our physical or mental plane and is able to glean far more information, knowledge and wisdom that lies off our conscious radar if we allow it freer reign.

I recall in my earlier business days how I defaulted to traditional business advice. Some it was sound and fundamental. Yet at some level I did not feel I was able to be my true creative self as so much was reduced to formulas which were supposedly designed to produce competitive edge, leading to more sales, more clients, and greater profitability. I struggled to integrate my spirituality into my work as it was often dismissed as irrelevant.

However my creativity was being stifled, and I eventually started to experience boredom, disappointment and disillusionment. It seemed that competition and creativity could not co-exist. Business did not feel so fun or fulfilling anymore.

I recall reading Gregg Braden’s book, The Divine Matrix, which bought quantum physics and spiritual principles together to demonstrate how to manifest according to your goals and dreams.

I also recall reading Neale Donald Walsch’s book ‘Conversations With God’ which demystified the religious connotations and explained things in more natural terms that make it accessible to everyone. No-one is excluded!!

Ironically when I sat still and sought answers during my own meditative experience, I came round full circle to putting creativity, fun and fulfillment at the forefront, blending them in with the best of the traditional taught principles. This is important as there are many spiritually inclined people that struggle to earn profitably in business. Integration is key.

When I let go of what was not serving me and found the courage to express all aspects of myself in the way I created valuable products and services, everything changed.

Now I often get approached to become involved in exciting and lucrative projects that combine fun and creativity while serving humanity at a deep level. Of course, not everything I am offered is right and I engage my heart and intuition in the process of becoming more wise and discerning as to what feels aligned with my core purpose.

This process I engaged with is something anyone can do but not everyone does. The act of simply becoming still, breathing deeply and asking questions with an open heart is invoking your spiritual intelligence. Add belief and faith in your vision and you are further realizing the power of your spirit. There’s nothing religious about that. It is simply a part of you waiting to be more fully engaged.

Maybe up till now, you have not fully engaged your spirit, and maybe now is an opportunity to do so. The following steps are simple, no cost and require only 7mins daily to activate your spiritual intelligence and/or give it freer reign.

  1. Ask an empowering question
  2. Sit still in a quiet place and breathe deeply
  3. Listen with an open heart, and let your intuition speak,
  4. Follow through

I have seen so much serendipity take place when I do this and it is exciting to say the least, and I shared some of these discoveries in my book Breaking Free.

For those of you who want to reclaim that lost dimension and immerse more on this topic, Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton and Heartmath will be holding a series of online events.

It is part of an online series called ‘The Science of Self-Empowerment: Cellular Consciousness, Heart Intelligence and The New Human Story’ and it kicks off on June 19th  with Gregg Braden.

The online event is FREE and you can access full details here via this link

http://bit.ly/GreggBradenOnlineEvent

Get ready for an exciting ride and here’s to greater and fulfilling manifestation with your dreams!!

Best wishes Anita

In the last 2 years I have come across phrases and discussions about building a conscious business and often wondered about why that name arises in the first place. At first, it met with some humour on my part as I wondered what an unconscious business looked like?

Jokes aside it took me down a path of reflection about what I have experienced and found difficult at times in business, and how business should be, including where business has lost its way.

Certainly if you take a look at the economy in recent years, there are signs that the so-called traditional systems are showing signs of old structures with banking crises in Greece, Cyprus and Northern Rock [UK]

The attempted decentralisation of industries by Uber and Airbnb in transport and accommodation respectively further reflect that shift, as does the decentralisation of money via cryptocurrency and the blockchain.

However this is not just about the quest for autonomy, but an attempt to come up with different solutions that improve people’s lives, by giving them fairer and reasonable options, minus the bureaucracy that swallows up so much money

Traditional taught marketing practices appear to be labouring in bearing fruit and profits for so many. They are in a sea of businesses fighting for the attention of their prospects, needing to stand out in a meaningful and impactful way. Accompanying this is a feeling of confusion and clarity about the way forward.

The old adage that you need 7 marketing messages to ‘get through’ to potential prospects no longer works of its own accord due to the low level of ‘know’, like and trust’ that has developed over time.

But why is this so? I get that not everybody in business would claim to be a visionary or a movement maker. There are a lot of people who simply want to run a profitable business, pay their bills and look after their family. Everything else is a bonus or luxury item. And that is fine as far as it goes.

But it does not explain the decline of the trust factor. And in spite of internet technology making communication and global reach so much easier, trust is at an all-time low.

Slick marketing practices and tactics are more commonplace as companies try to salvage or maintain a competitive edge.

When I have experiences with poor customer service such as I did this week while dealing with domestic bill enquiries it seems to underline something fundamental for me that is commonly observed.

It appears that in the quest to achieve profitability certain values go by the wayside and many businesses forget the true purpose of business which is to solve a real problem or significantly improve a situation through product and service that is win-win for customer and company. An important part of that process is how businesses serve their customers and humanity.

It appears that many businesses are more concerned about selling their product as opposed to serving their prospects in the true sense through their product or service offering.

Raising the standard of living and the lives of people in the process should be core and is often lost in the quest for sales and profitability. It seems to be about how much money has been made rather than how people are served for the betterment of society.

Not long ago Forbes made a chilling prediction those people who ignore these things and fail to integrate serving humanity and raising lives into their practice may find themselves out of business in the next 7 years.

I had the privilege of co-hosting the strategic philanthropy global summit last year where Steve Farrell of Humanity’s Team was a guest speaker. Steve has been hugely successful as a business entrepreneur in Silicon Valley, and now leading a movement of Conscious Business Leaders to restore the true heart and soul of business.

He really spoke to the heart of the problems in business and expands on where many of us have been ‘unconscious’ in our business practice and how to change that to serve humanity, be fulfilled and highly profitable at the same time.

Steve has put some video discussions together where he shares without apology:-

  • Why our legacy of unconscious capitalism with single-bottom-line profit at any cost is leading us to eventual destruction—personally and planetarily.
  • How our collective “lifting of consciousness” is the ultimate disrupter that will lead us out of greed and onto a higher plane of courage, compassion and civility.
  • The distinction between an unconscious and conscious business and the 4 “Ps” that define of the latter.
  • Why companies like Tesla, Tom’s Shoes and others are paving solid ground towards generative, servant-based and consciously innovative ways of doing business.
  • Why leadership from within is the only true way to lead and create real prosperity.
  • Where you fit into all of this.

If you feel moved to take tangible steps to forge a conscious path for yourself and your life’s work, and help bring integrity and compassion into business, listen to what he and his team have to say here in this series of videos.

Click below for more

Conscious Business Training Videos

Anita Narayan

In my years of coaching and mentoring, so many of my clients still struggle when it comes to speaking, as part of their business. I have watched people literally freeze and cringe in front of a camera. I have witnessed many avoiding video talk due to feeling intimidated by technology. The most common feedback I receive is that many are concerned about how they are being perceived by their audience.

This is a real shame since many of those I speak with have an important message to share in line with their vision, yet feel relatively crippled when it comes to using their voice to spread their message. It is ultimately a form of self-sabotage.

When I did my TV Presenter’s course last year, I continued to experience something I commonly share in my coaching of others, and that is the importance of being yourself, rather than trying to perform. So let’s continue with a question.

What would happen if you could be yourself and communicate your message in such a way that combines authenticity with deep impact on your audience, that makes for an unforgettable experience?

I caught up with Davide Di Giorgio, TED talks trainer,  who helps people shift their perspective and their results. Listen in to our conversation and what he shared if you want to transform your speaking.

  • The importance of shifting your perspective with regards speaking
  • What it means to move past being a technician of speaking
  • What it means to be authentic
  • Deconstructing a powerful talk
  • Aligning purpose, authenticity, impact and an unforgettable talk
  • How to build a speaking business that is viable
  • How Davide helps people through unique experiences he creates in his events
  • Why you are ready now
  • The first step to changing your current experience

Make today the day you change the way you speak and deliver your message forever. You can access Davide’s Community of support by clicking here

Richard Branson once said ‘if you aren’t making a difference in other people’s lives you shouldn’t be in business -it’s that simple’

Many would agree with this perspective and yet it may be one that divides professionals in business at some level. The majority would agree that their product or service needs to tackle and resolve a problem that people are seeking a solution to. However, it’s how professionals operate that starts to expose some conflicts.

There are differing motivations and forms of approach out there in the business world. For some, they merely want to have the freedom to run their business successfully enough to pay the bills and have enough profit to service a lifestyle that looks after family beyond mere survival. Others want to make a boatload of money and be hugely successful, with a more lavish lifestyle.

Then there are those who are more purpose driven in that they care about humanity and the wider world and really seek to align their business with meeting those needs so the world can be a truly better place at all levels of operation.
Many of us have witnessed the good, the bad and the indifferent in business. Even good intentions in business practice can derail under pressure such as cash flow if left unchecked.

What has become more evident is that the practice of launching a product or service out there, followed by aggressive marketing and persuasion tactics to make the customer buy, is becoming less successful and more redundant. We cannot simply operate a business in a way that makes the customer fit our product.

The return to a more socially conscious approach to business is gaining traction and reaping lasting rewards. Forbes has recently warned that businesses who ignore a certain trend will not last beyond the next 4-7 years. So it would appear that critical re-evaluation is required to make sure we are truly serving those who seek our solution, and not the other way round.

Forbes was alluding to something that can be described as strategic philanthropy – combining making money through doing good. Of course this has many different expressions.

I recall when I first came across this expression in my mastermind group I was unclear as to its meaning. However, since childhood, I had been clear about wanting to deploy my gifts and talents in a way that could help humanity on a larger scale, particularly those who were stuck in survival issues.

But beyond spontaneous acts of giving and small projects along the way, I struggled to weave them both together for so many years, due to low income.

The idea of working simply to have a decent lifestyle and acquire material things for my own pleasure always felt short of appealing. People mattered to me more than things, but I did dream about having abundant resources so that I could contribute to humanity in a big way.

However as much as I got into structured giving such as sponsoring a child in Kenya and the Philippines for a few years, along with spontaneous acts of giving, I struggled with the money side of things, largely due to low income. I was by some descriptions a broke philanthropist.

My money story and struggles meant that there was always this glass ceiling in my mind just above my head, and for many years I felt trapped by that.It restricted my capacity to give.

I remember a few years ago listening to Angelina Jolie’s acceptance speech when given a humanitarian award. She spoke of two things – gratitude and pain. Her gratitude was that she considered herself fortunate to have grown up in an environment where she could discover and develop her gifts and talents; at the same time to use the resulting wealth to support her philanthropic desires, which go beyond merely giving money to support causes.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

When I heard this it made me cry because it spoke to a similar gratitude and pain that had been an undercurrent within me for so many years. However, my cultural and educational upbringing along with the many messages coming out of the church I attended at the time, such as money being the root of evil, rendered me in a state of constant conflict. Beyond being broke I felt that my dream was broken. Maybe you can relate.

But the dream never left me, and as I look back over the last 10 years I can see recall the turning point and processes that have brought me to where I am now. It has been fascinating to observe how I managed to evolve and close that gap significantly.

Like many business owners, I got stuck in a time for money trap with my coaching services, which limited the delivery of value, and whilst I have since rebranded, the real journey that prefaced this was so much deeper, and one of personal transformation based on acknowledging and building around core values in a deeper way.

Out of that, I have now birthed my own inspirational book Breaking Free. I also find myself co-hosting this year’s Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit with Tom Matzen, speaking with highly successful entrepreneurs who have learned to combine doing good with making money at the same time.

There were no coincidences in how this opportunity came to me. Furthermore, it has provided another platform from which to evaluate how I develop, shape and direct strategic philanthropy in my own business.

If you want a context to re-evaluate your business given what Forbes has said, please why not join us at The Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit. Come and get inspired, connect and collaborate. It is free to register and listen in live.

The recordings will be available for sale thereafter, with half the gross proceeds going to KIVA microloans. You can see all the details here for the event which kicks off on Tuesday 13th June 2017. See you there?

Anita Narayan

I recently attended a live event on strategic alliances where I learnt how this one strategy can create leverage in principle areas of time, money and influence.

The concept was not new to me, and formerly I had known it by the term joint ventures. Whilst I had a basic understanding of the power of strategic alliances I was troubled by one thing from experience.

My previous experiences of joint ventures had resulted in being exploited and left in the dust by unscrupulous individuals. I was left with the theory of everything and the substance of nothing. I confess this left me bruised and reticent about engaging with such a strategy.

However I had enough ‘process’ about me that I understood it was not the fault of the strategy. I needed to become more discerning where individuals were concerned. It could no longer be about people who were highly skilled, but those who combined it with a heart that genuinely wanted to serve.

Earlier this year I was introduced to a group of people who were setting their stall out differently – building strategic alliances within a ‘dolphin’ culture.

I was immediately drawn to this, yet knew that talk alone is cheap. So I decided to dip my toes in the water through their community and eventually immersed deeper, hence attending the live event in Las Vegas.

I have wondered for a long time what could be possible when people of heart and talent combine to help each other in business in a way that ensures all are winners, and having fun in the process.

What this group are answering for me so far is, what can happen in business when a group of heart-centred entrepreneurs come together in the spirit of high support and creativity, to empower each other to create deals.

They go beyond merely identifying individuals by matching list and product. This is not for entrepreneurs that simply want to be self-serving and take from others. I like that discernment. It allows genuine people with high value to rise.

One thing I would note though, is that when you start to play at a higher level, unresolved stuff will surface. That is just the nature of the beast and something that is often times overlooked. You may even experience the ‘diamonds in the rough’ scenario as you engage with a potential alliance.

However, for me the key is to embrace it and learn to dissolve this with an open heart and mind as well as a humble spirit. Ultimately I find that when I acknowledge and let go of the things that would hold me back, I feel liberated.

Some of the things I have learned so far is:-
1) How to make your product valuable and accessible
2) How to structure your programmes for better positioning and uptake
3) How to develop high value and trust relationships
4) How to develop online infrastructures to streamline and support product or service delivery
5) How to think creatively

The list goes on, and if this has piqued your interest you may want to play with this community. The host has kindly put together a masterclass to unpack and explain how strategic alliances in the right culture can create massive leverage for you in term so time, impact and income.

So if you are sick and tired of inconsistent cash flow and want to change that in a highly valuable way, do listen to this masterclass. Who knows, you might just get your aha moment today!

In the last 48 hours I, amongst others, lost a dear colleague and friend Audrey Brown, who passed away after a protracted battle with a recurring illness. It is a deeply sad moment, as the reality sinks in.

This is my heartfelt tribute and gratitude to an inspirational lady who exuded love, fun, beauty and grace. We hadn’t known each other that long. We met at a TV Presenter’s course in the early part of this year. In fact the group that we were part of had a special connection because of the respective journeys that bought us to this point, and how we wanted to grow and serve others beyond by developing our skills. It was a coming together that was refreshing and went beyond conscious awareness.

During the 5 days of training and into the months beyond, further conversations exchanged, and it seemed we had journeyed far due to the sharing of a common journey that had at its core, the desire to inspire and help others with our gifts.

There is a huge part of me that always hopes that those with that kind of heart will prevail beyond the average number of years a person may have on this earth because we live in a world that needs more inspiration than ever before, in my opinion. This kind of giving is bigger than any one person has to give, and today we lost an inspirational leader.

Audrey would be too humble to describe herself in such terms, and as highly evolved as she was, she still wanted to attend a recent workshop I held, such was her hunger to continue to learn and grow, and be a catalyst for spreading inspiration.

Not many people could genuinely exude so much life and inspiration with a strong, determined spirit whilst battling in the dark with illness. One of our last conversations was how adversity develops strength and character.

For me Audrey shone even brighter in the dark hours of her illness. Even from her hospital bed she was sharing her journey and sending out video clips as her energy allowed, displaying a warrior mentality, a never-say-die attitude, with a continued encouragement for us all to live inspirational lives.

Like an evergreen, she consistently saw the beauty in human beings, she was gracious and so giving. Even in her hour of need, she would cheer me from the sidelines when I shared my inspirational message in its various forms.

Audrey was fun loving, full of life and selfless in her sharing. She sprinkled exuberance for life everywhere with remarkable consistency. She was reconciled with adversity as a part of life, not an intrusion on life, and she met it with boldness and grace.

So as a human being, I feel that loss and sadness deeply. We all grieve in different ways and maybe do battle with difficult emotions, whether they be rational or not, and each person processes and expresses things differently.

However what is also emerging in me very strongly is how this amazing human being showed up in the world with such consistent love and inspiration, the light of which no dark hour could put out. She has held a mirror up to us all, in effect, to show what the human spirit is capable of.

It is this which rises within me, and as surely as the night time gives way to the dawn of a new day, this will galvanize me to continue to develop the best version of me, so that the world, including me, can thrive. She has left me richer than when we last spoke and for that and all I have expressed above, I am truly and eternally grateful.

May we all continue that legacy, take on the baton of inspiration, and share and serve others through our gifts and abilities, to leave this world in a more beautiful place than we found it, just as she did. I feel her cheering on through her spirit.

Adversity is a subject that for many people represents unpleasant and uncomfortable thinking, because it usually involves looking at some trauma, grief, distressing or extremely challenging situation.

This can involve illness, injury, financial stress bereavement or family and relationship troubles to name a few. On the lower end of the scale it may cover struggles to bring about effective lifestyle changes, challenges with studying, teething problems in business, work or relocation.

Human nature is such that many tend to shrink in the face of challenge and adversity, and navigate it with baited breath. Unfortunately this approach can lead to a situation dragging out longer than necessary with accumulated excessive stress in the process.

This used to be my approach to challenges in my earlier years. I would get agitated, play out worse case scenarios in my mind, become distracted, and at times displace my stress onto others in an abrupt manner. Maybe you can relate.

So what is the key to dealing with adversity in a way that minimizes the unpleasant feelings and brings resolution in the best possible way.

The first thing is to look at what you are associating with adversity. You can do that by simply calling the things that come to mind when that word is mentioned. Usually stress, tension and anxiety will be common associations.

It becomes clear from the above scenario that in order to navigate adversity in a more empowered way, the perspective of adversity needs to change. So let me offer a few perspectives from what I discovered. Play with these to discover its truth for yourself.

1) Adversity is a part of life rather than an intrusion on life
2) Adversity is like a mirror reflecting back to you where you are at in terms of character, resilience and resourcefulness to name a few.
3) Adversity carries opportunity for inner growth
4) Adversity is like a friend in disguise, acting as a door opener toward success

Many who read the above may understand and agree in theory, but that theoretical understanding alone is not enough to bring about a positive change.

It is essential to experiment and give yourself an experience of those things in order to bring about significant and lasting change at root level. By way of example let’s take a look at the first one on the list above.

Football gave me an insight into this. I used to play in women’s football which is a physical contact sport in which you can get tackled legitimately or fouled against the rules. As it was part of the game I would get up quickly when fouled. The bigger aim was to score goals and win the match.

It helped me to understand that life is like a physical contact sport, in that it involves human touch, and events can occur that can knock us. Football served as an analogy to help me translate what I learnt on the football pitch into my life – adversity and challenges are a part of life not an intrusion.

When I translated this lesson across, everything changed in the way I perceived challenges and adversity. It dissolved my resistance and I met it head on, with my focus on the bigger picture, whilst extracting the gift and opportunities it bought for growth.

This then became a breeding ground from which I made discoveries about the other three points above, which I wrote about in my book Breaking Free. So find the experience or create the experience in your life that will allow you to discover these truths for yourself, and have fun in the process of creating that experience.

One of the things I have been quoted on in mainstream media was my take on success. I shared that success is like a coin – the being and doing aspects are directly linked. If you want lasting success and fufillment it is important to work both sides of the coin.

We live in a society that predominantly measures success by the grades you get in your exams, the money you earn and the lifestyle possessions you acquire. Whilst that is one measure of success, it has unfortunately led to an imbalance in the way success is defined and experienced.
For example so many people operate a definition of success that only allows them to feel good about themselves when they are achieving something.

There are 3 challenges with this:-

• That perspective of success defers the feel good factor and can rob a person of joy in the journey.
• It also emphasizes the ‘doing’ side of the coin in order to feel good.
• A person can end up reducing themselves to a set of executable tasks which when completed successfully, lead to the achievement in question.

If a person is to experience lasting success and fulfilment, it is important to reconsider and move toward a new definition of success that embraces other important factors. Since life is happening now, and the place we spend the most time is in our skin, success needs to embrace happiness and well-being in the present and not just the future.

The irony is that if a person can learn to access joy and happiness in the present without it being attached to an achievement, the vibrancy that results will act as fuel that aids momentum towards the achievement of a dream.

In fact the capacity to experience joy in the present moment from a place of unconditional love toward self are strong foundation principles for building and enhancing success.

The first steps to realigning to a more holistic definition of success is to pause and acknowledge that the definition you may have bought into has been influenced by society’s emphasis yet has led to an imbalance in experience.

Secondly, decide to redefine success on your terms. Consider the values you wish to build on, and the relationship with yourself you wish to enjoy, and reinstate those values, and tend to your well-being on a regular basis. Learn that the place from which you take action is as important as the action itself – there is a difference between acting from joy as opposed to obligation for example.

When you address these being aspects, over time you will start to feel a more complete feeling of success and a greater joy and appreciation for life each day.

This was one of the first things I wrote about in Breaking Free. Recently we have had ample evidence  of how things can change in a moment. In these last few months alone we have witnessed the sudden deaths of Prince, Victoria Wood and Jonah Lomu. I mention those three because in the eyes of many they died well before their time

During their lives we were blessed with the heights of talent in music, comedy and sporting prowess respectively.

Of course changes can occur to the upside in sudden fashion too. That promotion at work, meeting the love of your life, winning the lottery, and the list goes on.

It is somewhat sad to observe that for many of us there is something about adversity that causes us to take a step back and evaluate what is important in our lives, particularly in the face of great loss.  It is a pain motivated pause which goes deep.

Why does that not happen so much when we experience the heights of thrilling events. Some would argue that they do reflect in similar depth, and yet it is rare to find such people who do so.

I recall getting a somewhat intuitive nudge on this subject while driving home from work one day. The statement ‘things can change in a moment’ was like a continuous play record in my head.

A day later one of the worse storms to hit Britain came unannounced, followed by a stock market crash within the week. That was in 1987.  The weather and the economy had converged into one devastating storm that affected countless lives

I recall at the beginning of my major transformation this was prefaced by great tragedy that caused me to find new solutions to what my life was lacking.

Although I could not appreciate it at the time it turned into the perfect storm as it was the turning point for a new lease of life for me, a journey I might not have awakened to and experienced if everything was seemingly ok

What my personal and observed experiences have taught me is that in any given moment things can happen externally to bring sudden change.  However we can also bring about significant change through the power of decisions and our inner creativity

None of us truly know the number of days we have on this earth. Therefore it is important to make the life in our years count.  So if you feel that life is holding you back in some way from living your dream, know that in any given moment you are a decision away from breaking free.

I know it because I lived it out and wrote about that journey in the book and song Breaking Free. Do not wait for something to happen to cause you to pause, reflect and redirect your life towards your dreams. Instead come from within and know that you have the ability to create something of great value and fulfilment in your life.