In my years of coaching and mentoring, so many of my clients still struggle when it comes to speaking, as part of their business. I have watched people literally freeze and cringe in front of a camera. I have witnessed many avoiding video talk due to feeling intimidated by technology. The most common feedback I receive is that many are concerned about how they are being perceived by their audience.

This is a real shame since many of those I speak with have an important message to share in line with their vision, yet feel relatively crippled when it comes to using their voice to spread their message. It is ultimately a form of self-sabotage.

When I did my TV Presenter’s course last year, I continued to experience something I commonly share in my coaching of others, and that is the importance of being yourself, rather than trying to perform. So let’s continue with a question.

What would happen if you could be yourself and communicate your message in such a way that combines authenticity with deep impact on your audience, that makes for an unforgettable experience?

I caught up with Davide Di Giorgio, TED talks trainer,  who helps people shift their perspective and their results. Listen in to our conversation and what he shared if you want to transform your speaking.

  • The importance of shifting your perspective with regards speaking
  • What it means to move past being a technician of speaking
  • What it means to be authentic
  • Deconstructing a powerful talk
  • Aligning purpose, authenticity, impact and an unforgettable talk
  • How to build a speaking business that is viable
  • How Davide helps people through unique experiences he creates in his events
  • Why you are ready now
  • The first step to changing your current experience

Make today the day you change the way you speak and deliver your message forever. You can access Davide’s Community of support by clicking here

Richard Branson once said ‘if you aren’t making a difference in other people’s lives you shouldn’t be in business -it’s that simple’

Many would agree with this perspective and yet it may be one that divides professionals in business at some level. The majority would agree that their product or service needs to tackle and resolve a problem that people are seeking a solution to. However, it’s how professionals operate that starts to expose some conflicts.

There are differing motivations and forms of approach out there in the business world. For some, they merely want to have the freedom to run their business successfully enough to pay the bills and have enough profit to service a lifestyle that looks after family beyond mere survival. Others want to make a boatload of money and be hugely successful, with a more lavish lifestyle.

Then there are those who are more purpose driven in that they care about humanity and the wider world and really seek to align their business with meeting those needs so the world can be a truly better place at all levels of operation.
Many of us have witnessed the good, the bad and the indifferent in business. Even good intentions in business practice can derail under pressure such as cash flow if left unchecked.

What has become more evident is that the practice of launching a product or service out there, followed by aggressive marketing and persuasion tactics to make the customer buy, is becoming less successful and more redundant. We cannot simply operate a business in a way that makes the customer fit our product.

The return to a more socially conscious approach to business is gaining traction and reaping lasting rewards. Forbes has recently warned that businesses who ignore a certain trend will not last beyond the next 4-7 years. So it would appear that critical re-evaluation is required to make sure we are truly serving those who seek our solution, and not the other way round.

Forbes was alluding to something that can be described as strategic philanthropy – combining making money through doing good. Of course this has many different expressions.

I recall when I first came across this expression in my mastermind group I was unclear as to its meaning. However, since childhood, I had been clear about wanting to deploy my gifts and talents in a way that could help humanity on a larger scale, particularly those who were stuck in survival issues.

But beyond spontaneous acts of giving and small projects along the way, I struggled to weave them both together for so many years, due to low income.

The idea of working simply to have a decent lifestyle and acquire material things for my own pleasure always felt short of appealing. People mattered to me more than things, but I did dream about having abundant resources so that I could contribute to humanity in a big way.

However as much as I got into structured giving such as sponsoring a child in Kenya and the Philippines for a few years, along with spontaneous acts of giving, I struggled with the money side of things, largely due to low income. I was by some descriptions a broke philanthropist.

My money story and struggles meant that there was always this glass ceiling in my mind just above my head, and for many years I felt trapped by that.It restricted my capacity to give.

I remember a few years ago listening to Angelina Jolie’s acceptance speech when given a humanitarian award. She spoke of two things – gratitude and pain. Her gratitude was that she considered herself fortunate to have grown up in an environment where she could discover and develop her gifts and talents; at the same time to use the resulting wealth to support her philanthropic desires, which go beyond merely giving money to support causes.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

When I heard this it made me cry because it spoke to a similar gratitude and pain that had been an undercurrent within me for so many years. However, my cultural and educational upbringing along with the many messages coming out of the church I attended at the time, such as money being the root of evil, rendered me in a state of constant conflict. Beyond being broke I felt that my dream was broken. Maybe you can relate.

But the dream never left me, and as I look back over the last 10 years I can see recall the turning point and processes that have brought me to where I am now. It has been fascinating to observe how I managed to evolve and close that gap significantly.

Like many business owners, I got stuck in a time for money trap with my coaching services, which limited the delivery of value, and whilst I have since rebranded, the real journey that prefaced this was so much deeper, and one of personal transformation based on acknowledging and building around core values in a deeper way.

Out of that, I have now birthed my own inspirational book Breaking Free. I also find myself co-hosting this year’s Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit with Tom Matzen, speaking with highly successful entrepreneurs who have learned to combine doing good with making money at the same time.

There were no coincidences in how this opportunity came to me. Furthermore, it has provided another platform from which to evaluate how I develop, shape and direct strategic philanthropy in my own business.

If you want a context to re-evaluate your business given what Forbes has said, please why not join us at The Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit. Come and get inspired, connect and collaborate. It is free to register and listen in live.

The recordings will be available for sale thereafter, with half the gross proceeds going to KIVA microloans. You can see all the details here for the event which kicks off on Tuesday 13th June 2017. See you there?

Anita Narayan

I recently attended a live event on strategic alliances where I learnt how this one strategy can create leverage in principle areas of time, money and influence.

The concept was not new to me, and formerly I had known it by the term joint ventures. Whilst I had a basic understanding of the power of strategic alliances I was troubled by one thing from experience.

My previous experiences of joint ventures had resulted in being exploited and left in the dust by unscrupulous individuals. I was left with the theory of everything and the substance of nothing. I confess this left me bruised and reticent about engaging with such a strategy.

However I had enough ‘process’ about me that I understood it was not the fault of the strategy. I needed to become more discerning where individuals were concerned. It could no longer be about people who were highly skilled, but those who combined it with a heart that genuinely wanted to serve.

Earlier this year I was introduced to a group of people who were setting their stall out differently – building strategic alliances within a ‘dolphin’ culture.

I was immediately drawn to this, yet knew that talk alone is cheap. So I decided to dip my toes in the water through their community and eventually immersed deeper, hence attending the live event in Las Vegas.

I have wondered for a long time what could be possible when people of heart and talent combine to help each other in business in a way that ensures all are winners, and having fun in the process.

What this group are answering for me so far is, what can happen in business when a group of heart-centred entrepreneurs come together in the spirit of high support and creativity, to empower each other to create deals.

They go beyond merely identifying individuals by matching list and product. This is not for entrepreneurs that simply want to be self-serving and take from others. I like that discernment. It allows genuine people with high value to rise.

One thing I would note though, is that when you start to play at a higher level, unresolved stuff will surface. That is just the nature of the beast and something that is often times overlooked. You may even experience the ‘diamonds in the rough’ scenario as you engage with a potential alliance.

However, for me the key is to embrace it and learn to dissolve this with an open heart and mind as well as a humble spirit. Ultimately I find that when I acknowledge and let go of the things that would hold me back, I feel liberated.

Some of the things I have learned so far is:-
1) How to make your product valuable and accessible
2) How to structure your programmes for better positioning and uptake
3) How to develop high value and trust relationships
4) How to develop online infrastructures to streamline and support product or service delivery
5) How to think creatively

The list goes on, and if this has piqued your interest you may want to play with this community. The host has kindly put together a masterclass to unpack and explain how strategic alliances in the right culture can create massive leverage for you in term so time, impact and income.

So if you are sick and tired of inconsistent cash flow and want to change that in a highly valuable way, do listen to this masterclass. Who knows, you might just get your aha moment today!

Adversity is a subject that for many people represents unpleasant and uncomfortable thinking, because it usually involves looking at some trauma, grief, distressing or extremely challenging situation.

This can involve illness, injury, financial stress bereavement or family and relationship troubles to name a few. On the lower end of the scale it may cover struggles to bring about effective lifestyle changes, challenges with studying, teething problems in business, work or relocation.

Human nature is such that many tend to shrink in the face of challenge and adversity, and navigate it with baited breath. Unfortunately this approach can lead to a situation dragging out longer than necessary with accumulated excessive stress in the process.

This used to be my approach to challenges in my earlier years. I would get agitated, play out worse case scenarios in my mind, become distracted, and at times displace my stress onto others in an abrupt manner. Maybe you can relate.

So what is the key to dealing with adversity in a way that minimizes the unpleasant feelings and brings resolution in the best possible way.

The first thing is to look at what you are associating with adversity. You can do that by simply calling the things that come to mind when that word is mentioned. Usually stress, tension and anxiety will be common associations.

It becomes clear from the above scenario that in order to navigate adversity in a more empowered way, the perspective of adversity needs to change. So let me offer a few perspectives from what I discovered. Play with these to discover its truth for yourself.

1) Adversity is a part of life rather than an intrusion on life
2) Adversity is like a mirror reflecting back to you where you are at in terms of character, resilience and resourcefulness to name a few.
3) Adversity carries opportunity for inner growth
4) Adversity is like a friend in disguise, acting as a door opener toward success

Many who read the above may understand and agree in theory, but that theoretical understanding alone is not enough to bring about a positive change.

It is essential to experiment and give yourself an experience of those things in order to bring about significant and lasting change at root level. By way of example let’s take a look at the first one on the list above.

Football gave me an insight into this. I used to play in women’s football which is a physical contact sport in which you can get tackled legitimately or fouled against the rules. As it was part of the game I would get up quickly when fouled. The bigger aim was to score goals and win the match.

It helped me to understand that life is like a physical contact sport, in that it involves human touch, and events can occur that can knock us. Football served as an analogy to help me translate what I learnt on the football pitch into my life – adversity and challenges are a part of life not an intrusion.

When I translated this lesson across, everything changed in the way I perceived challenges and adversity. It dissolved my resistance and I met it head on, with my focus on the bigger picture, whilst extracting the gift and opportunities it bought for growth.

This then became a breeding ground from which I made discoveries about the other three points above, which I wrote about in my book Breaking Free. So find the experience or create the experience in your life that will allow you to discover these truths for yourself, and have fun in the process of creating that experience.

I was not surprised to read a recent newspaper article which cited a survey indicating that out of 2000 British people surveyed, the majority remained in fantasy mode about it. The wishful thinking averaged 2hrs a day and many dreamt of having a different lifestyle that would be healthier and more fulfilling. Definitions of that varied but included health, money, travel and career.

Alarmingly 80% of those surveyed admitted they were not living the life they truly desired. Even more shocking was the acknowledgement that by 32years of age they had given up on their dreams, and were living with regrets, as if their life was effectively over!

Although this was a small size study compared to the overall population the percentage of people writing off their dreams and living with regrets was very high. Throughout my coaching days I have witnessed more people than not who speak in such terms, as if life has dealt them a rotten hand of cards.

What I find sad is that the scenario described to me need not be the case. If you look around you at any object like a chair or a car, these things started off in the mind of man so to speak before they showed up in physical reality. They did not manifest out of nothing.

When I put this to many people they accept the concept. However when it comes to translating that concept to create a different reality in their lives, they falter in their acceptance. Why is this so?

It is one thing to accept that other people can produce a different reality through the creative use of imagination. It is another thing to believe that you can do it. This is a big gap I find in so many people.

The second observation I would make as to why people become somewhat paralysed when changing their reality is that their response reflects the conditioning of society and significant earlier experiences that have shaped them to think this way. They hold toxic beliefs that they are not good enough, worthy enough or lucky enough to have the life they desire.

By conditioned response I mean that someone could come up to you and prove something as true, yet you would still reject that truth. Take Christopher Columbus for example. He discovered that the world was round and scientifically proved it, yet it took a long time for the world to accept this as they had believed for so long that the world was flat. Such is the power of conditioning.

The good news is that it is possible to recondition yourself in support of your dreams. Much of my coaching is working with people at a deeper level of their being to awaken them to their true creative nature, so that they can mobilise the inner resources they already have to change their lives.

When I think back to where I was at 32years of age, life had dealt me a tragic set of cards that could have derailed me completely from the life I wanted. Somewhat ironically it was during those years and during the dark night of my soul that I awakened to what was inside me that could transform my life. My life is so different now.

It is somewhat ironic that adversity turned out to be the teacher that awoke me to my inner resources, and I share my discoveries in my book and song Breaking Free, to inspire and help you change the percentages of your dream life in your favour. I have also put some complementary videos together on my website, for you to help you design a framework and blueprint to change your life. So what are you waiting for? Give yourself the gift of change for a better life.