You may be familiar with the practice of certain days in the calendar being set aside to commemorate or develop greater awareness and attention around a particular topic of global interest. Recently we had Mental Health Day, Peace One Day and Earth Day as examples.

In the case of the above examples, it is not just about setting a day aside to remember, it is about an evolution of our understanding that is designed to precipitate change for the good of all concerned.

Global Oneness Day is a yearly event that occurs on the 24th October each year which discusses the concept of oneness as it applies to you and the world, as well as how many entrepreneurs are applying this to their life and field of work influence.

The concept of oneness is something that does appear to have an obvious relevance to people’s lives, especially in a world which is heavily punctuated with survival, stress and conflict on an individual and collective level. So many people are absorbed with their own stuff and barely looking around to consider the wider impact of their lives.

This is even more reason to set aside time to understand how ‘oneness’ applies to individual and collective living, and how the wise application of what it truly means can inspire abundance in every level of life.

Oneness is about the connectedness of things and is relevant to business whether one is talking about building rapport and trust, or other aspects of doing business. To grasp and apply its implications is to equip you with the resourcefulness to combat isolation and a defragmented approach to life and business.

Business has traditionally advertised the merits of competition and dominating the marketplace in order to be profitable. I came from a service background of mental health nursing, and it was a shock to me to feel I had to promote and market aggressively in order to get a reasonable amount of the ‘pie of success’

What I have since gone on to discover is what Charles Haanel and Wallace Wattles, in their respective books, The Master Key System and The Science of Getting Rich, refer to as the connection between the creative mind and success.

I have found that when I have applied its teachings of delivering value, service, gratitude, mental imagery, efficient action in order to benefit mankind my results are significantly different and far more effortless. In fact many of these things I learned in the service industry and enjoyed huge success and reward without having to adopt an ‘aggressive me’ stance

Vocations such as nursing can teach business much about true profitability because of the underlying values base of purpose, care and love. These underpinning values is often given secondary or luxury consideration, rather than a more integral one. Some even ask ‘what has love got to do with business?’ We are missing out on wealth in the true sense of the word from my observations and discoveries.

Going back to The Master Key System by Charles Haanel he talks about being and doing with love and service for the good of mankind. Underlying these statements is the connection he talks about between us and the universe at large, which is spiritual [not religious] in nature

It seems to me that if we are going to thrive in life and work, we need to understand our core essence and how that connects to our source or Universal Intelligence so that we can draw on its power in a more effortless and integrated way to serve humankind while redressing the imbalance of an overly competitive approach.

There is so much more abundance to be experienced when we can truly help others through our life and work without manipulation.

I find the results to be more effortless, and my sense of wellbeing is not deferred to some achievement but is more engaged with the joy and process of my creativity. Money has flowed more easily when in this groove too.

Ultimately this is not something that can be done justice through mere words. It really is an experience that you need to give yourself in more scientific fashion in order to discover its truths and benefits for yourself.

The Global Oneness Day is a free online summit type event which may be a good place to start the journey of ascertaining its significance to your life. Here is a snippet from last year’s event

http://bit.ly/GlobalOnenessDaySnippet

On October 24th, 2018 which is a week away, many of the speakers will share directly from their journey and experiences which have informed their expertise. I always enjoy the event even if I cannot be there all day.

You can find out more about the event and speakers by going here

http://bit.ly/GlobalOnenessDay2018

I look forward to joining with you there for those of you who can attend.

You may recall in a previous blog post I shared a video conversation I had with Davide Di Giorgio who is affectionately known as The Unapologetic Speaker because he helps entrepreneurs to embrace themselves and become confident speakers by sharing authentically with their audience.  Here is a reminder of that blog post

Now Davide is coming out with his book ‘Being Unapologetic’, to spread his knowledge and wisdom further in order to make a difference and impact as many people who could do with his insights

 

In ‘Being Unapologetic’, Davide shares directly from his journey rather than a textbook on how he discovered his ‘own voice’ and how he relays his message to the world in an empowering way.

In a world where so many entrepreneurs are focussed on performance and results, Davide’s book re-orientates you to the core issues which will ultimately enable you to be more impactful if you embrace its teachings

I have had a sneak peek into Davide’s book. Here is some of what is covered:-

Across 3 parts, Davide covers the core issues of discovering your purpose, developing leadership and delivering your vision

The clue is in the word ‘being’ and so it’s no surprise that Davide starts with you, understanding who you are, discovering your own truth, embracing yourself, your gifts and talents in celebratory style

In the leadership part, Davide also addresses radical accountability, being unreasonable, taking a stand for what you believe in and embracing difference as normal.

Finally, he covers what it means to be truly unforgettable and unstoppable when it comes to delivering your vision

I like to use this as a framework to evaluate, tweak and adjust my own speaking, and my own reflection is to go beyond whether I am familiar with what I am reading to asking myself how well I apply the knowledge since this is what informs me of the areas that need my attention if I am to improve and grow in my own practice

Davide’s book takes an ‘inside-out’ approach and will give you much-needed clarity and confidence where your own voice and message are concerned, so that you can map out your own speaking journey going forward and share with greater ease and boldness.

Davide has also integrated another aspect of his mission which is dear to his heart, and that is the work with performing art students across the globe to help them develop authentically and to confidently express their gifts boldy without apology

With the forthcoming launch of his book on August 22nd there is an opportunity for everyone to benefit because the price will be only 99 cents, but if you are like me and prefer to thumb through a physical book you can pre-order below and get free international shipping for a while. Or order both and access helpful additional resources as a bonus.

To learn more about how the purchase of his book will help you while supporting performing arts students across the globe, click here

Thank you Davide for being unapologetic and sharing your message and mission with the world

To Your Success and Wellbeing

Anita

The word ‘spiritual’ is a touchy subject for many people and one that causes much resistance when it comes to applying it to business because it is often associated with religion. Additionally, many entrepreneurs consider it irrelevant to business.

I find the opposite to be true. Not only has it been relevant for me. It is difficult to operate to my full potential without it. Whether we accept it or not we all have a spiritual dimension, just as we have a physical, mental and emotional dimension to us

In fact, science is constantly affirming now what so many spiritual commentaries have been stating for years through a more instinctive place. When you talk about a human being showing great spirit, you are acknowledging that part of you – the spiritual dimension

You only need to take a look at the work of organizations like HeartMath, to start to grasp the significance of the heart in daily living as well as how it can impact business.

Scientists are becoming more aware of the field of energy that encompasses the heart, likening it to another brain with even greater amplitude

When I refer to spiritual intelligence here I am not talking about religion. The two are not the same although they can overlap. James Twyman, author of The Moses Code offers a useful distinction when referring to this.

He summarises that many religious people tend to operate as if God is out there, as if heaven or hell is a place you go to after death, depending on how your life has been lived in accordance with religious rules, and that therefore God’s love is conditional.  

On the other hand he offers that spiritual people are not attached to a religious order and ‘know that there’s no separation between themselves and their Divine Source…that Jesus was correct when he said “The Kingdom of God is within you” and ‘know that God’s love is eternal and unconditional’ and that through this their soul’s potential is revealed.

To bring this down to earth, when you exercise such things as an open heart and engage your intuition, you are engaging your spirit, which has a great capacity to reveal your potential and utilize it for good. You may name this force, universal intelligence or higher power, or higher self. It doesn’t matter

The key is that the spiritual aspect of ourselves is not confined to our physical or mental plane and is able to glean far more information, knowledge and wisdom that lies off our conscious radar if we allow it freer reign.

I recall in my earlier business days how I defaulted to traditional business advice. Some it was sound and fundamental. Yet at some level I did not feel I was able to be my true creative self as so much was reduced to formulas which were supposedly designed to produce competitive edge, leading to more sales, more clients, and greater profitability. I struggled to integrate my spirituality into my work as it was often dismissed as irrelevant.

However my creativity was being stifled, and I eventually started to experience boredom, disappointment and disillusionment. It seemed that competition and creativity could not co-exist. Business did not feel so fun or fulfilling anymore.

I recall reading Gregg Braden’s book, The Divine Matrix, which bought quantum physics and spiritual principles together to demonstrate how to manifest according to your goals and dreams.

I also recall reading Neale Donald Walsch’s book ‘Conversations With God’ which demystified the religious connotations and explained things in more natural terms that make it accessible to everyone. No-one is excluded!!

Ironically when I sat still and sought answers during my own meditative experience, I came round full circle to putting creativity, fun and fulfillment at the forefront, blending them in with the best of the traditional taught principles. This is important as there are many spiritually inclined people that struggle to earn profitably in business. Integration is key.

When I let go of what was not serving me and found the courage to express all aspects of myself in the way I created valuable products and services, everything changed.

Now I often get approached to become involved in exciting and lucrative projects that combine fun and creativity while serving humanity at a deep level. Of course, not everything I am offered is right and I engage my heart and intuition in the process of becoming more wise and discerning as to what feels aligned with my core purpose.

This process I engaged with is something anyone can do but not everyone does. The act of simply becoming still, breathing deeply and asking questions with an open heart is invoking your spiritual intelligence. Add belief and faith in your vision and you are further realizing the power of your spirit. There’s nothing religious about that. It is simply a part of you waiting to be more fully engaged.

Maybe up till now, you have not fully engaged your spirit, and maybe now is an opportunity to do so. The following steps are simple, no cost and require only 7mins daily to activate your spiritual intelligence and/or give it freer reign.

  1. Ask an empowering question
  2. Sit still in a quiet place and breathe deeply
  3. Listen with an open heart, and let your intuition speak,
  4. Follow through

I have seen so much serendipity take place when I do this and it is exciting to say the least, and I shared some of these discoveries in my book Breaking Free.

For those of you who want to reclaim that lost dimension and immerse more on this topic, Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton and Heartmath will be holding a series of online events.

It is part of an online series called ‘The Science of Self-Empowerment: Cellular Consciousness, Heart Intelligence and The New Human Story’ and it kicks off on June 19th  with Gregg Braden.

The online event is FREE and you can access full details here via this link

http://bit.ly/GreggBradenOnlineEvent

Get ready for an exciting ride and here’s to greater and fulfilling manifestation with your dreams!!

Best wishes Anita

In the last 2 years I have come across phrases and discussions about building a conscious business and often wondered about why that name arises in the first place. At first, it met with some humour on my part as I wondered what an unconscious business looked like?

Jokes aside it took me down a path of reflection about what I have experienced and found difficult at times in business, and how business should be, including where business has lost its way.

Certainly if you take a look at the economy in recent years, there are signs that the so-called traditional systems are showing signs of old structures with banking crises in Greece, Cyprus and Northern Rock [UK]

The attempted decentralisation of industries by Uber and Airbnb in transport and accommodation respectively further reflect that shift, as does the decentralisation of money via cryptocurrency and the blockchain.

However this is not just about the quest for autonomy, but an attempt to come up with different solutions that improve people’s lives, by giving them fairer and reasonable options, minus the bureaucracy that swallows up so much money

Traditional taught marketing practices appear to be labouring in bearing fruit and profits for so many. They are in a sea of businesses fighting for the attention of their prospects, needing to stand out in a meaningful and impactful way. Accompanying this is a feeling of confusion and clarity about the way forward.

The old adage that you need 7 marketing messages to ‘get through’ to potential prospects no longer works of its own accord due to the low level of ‘know’, like and trust’ that has developed over time.

But why is this so? I get that not everybody in business would claim to be a visionary or a movement maker. There are a lot of people who simply want to run a profitable business, pay their bills and look after their family. Everything else is a bonus or luxury item. And that is fine as far as it goes.

But it does not explain the decline of the trust factor. And in spite of internet technology making communication and global reach so much easier, trust is at an all-time low.

Slick marketing practices and tactics are more commonplace as companies try to salvage or maintain a competitive edge.

When I have experiences with poor customer service such as I did this week while dealing with domestic bill enquiries it seems to underline something fundamental for me that is commonly observed.

It appears that in the quest to achieve profitability certain values go by the wayside and many businesses forget the true purpose of business which is to solve a real problem or significantly improve a situation through product and service that is win-win for customer and company. An important part of that process is how businesses serve their customers and humanity.

It appears that many businesses are more concerned about selling their product as opposed to serving their prospects in the true sense through their product or service offering.

Raising the standard of living and the lives of people in the process should be core and is often lost in the quest for sales and profitability. It seems to be about how much money has been made rather than how people are served for the betterment of society.

Not long ago Forbes made a chilling prediction those people who ignore these things and fail to integrate serving humanity and raising lives into their practice may find themselves out of business in the next 7 years.

I had the privilege of co-hosting the strategic philanthropy global summit last year where Steve Farrell of Humanity’s Team was a guest speaker. Steve has been hugely successful as a business entrepreneur in Silicon Valley, and now leading a movement of Conscious Business Leaders to restore the true heart and soul of business.

He really spoke to the heart of the problems in business and expands on where many of us have been ‘unconscious’ in our business practice and how to change that to serve humanity, be fulfilled and highly profitable at the same time.

Steve has put some video discussions together where he shares without apology:-

  • Why our legacy of unconscious capitalism with single-bottom-line profit at any cost is leading us to eventual destruction—personally and planetarily.
  • How our collective “lifting of consciousness” is the ultimate disrupter that will lead us out of greed and onto a higher plane of courage, compassion and civility.
  • The distinction between an unconscious and conscious business and the 4 “Ps” that define of the latter.
  • Why companies like Tesla, Tom’s Shoes and others are paving solid ground towards generative, servant-based and consciously innovative ways of doing business.
  • Why leadership from within is the only true way to lead and create real prosperity.
  • Where you fit into all of this.

If you feel moved to take tangible steps to forge a conscious path for yourself and your life’s work, and help bring integrity and compassion into business, listen to what he and his team have to say here in this series of videos.

Click below for more

Conscious Business Training Videos

Anita Narayan

In my years of coaching and mentoring, so many of my clients still struggle when it comes to speaking, as part of their business. I have watched people literally freeze and cringe in front of a camera. I have witnessed many avoiding video talk due to feeling intimidated by technology. The most common feedback I receive is that many are concerned about how they are being perceived by their audience.

This is a real shame since many of those I speak with have an important message to share in line with their vision, yet feel relatively crippled when it comes to using their voice to spread their message. It is ultimately a form of self-sabotage.

When I did my TV Presenter’s course last year, I continued to experience something I commonly share in my coaching of others, and that is the importance of being yourself, rather than trying to perform. So let’s continue with a question.

What would happen if you could be yourself and communicate your message in such a way that combines authenticity with deep impact on your audience, that makes for an unforgettable experience?

I caught up with Davide Di Giorgio, TED talks trainer,  who helps people shift their perspective and their results. Listen in to our conversation and what he shared if you want to transform your speaking.

  • The importance of shifting your perspective with regards speaking
  • What it means to move past being a technician of speaking
  • What it means to be authentic
  • Deconstructing a powerful talk
  • Aligning purpose, authenticity, impact and an unforgettable talk
  • How to build a speaking business that is viable
  • How Davide helps people through unique experiences he creates in his events
  • Why you are ready now
  • The first step to changing your current experience

Make today the day you change the way you speak and deliver your message forever. You can access Davide’s Community of support by clicking here

Richard Branson once said ‘if you aren’t making a difference in other people’s lives you shouldn’t be in business -it’s that simple’

Many would agree with this perspective and yet it may be one that divides professionals in business at some level. The majority would agree that their product or service needs to tackle and resolve a problem that people are seeking a solution to. However, it’s how professionals operate that starts to expose some conflicts.

There are differing motivations and forms of approach out there in the business world. For some, they merely want to have the freedom to run their business successfully enough to pay the bills and have enough profit to service a lifestyle that looks after family beyond mere survival. Others want to make a boatload of money and be hugely successful, with a more lavish lifestyle.

Then there are those who are more purpose driven in that they care about humanity and the wider world and really seek to align their business with meeting those needs so the world can be a truly better place at all levels of operation.
Many of us have witnessed the good, the bad and the indifferent in business. Even good intentions in business practice can derail under pressure such as cash flow if left unchecked.

What has become more evident is that the practice of launching a product or service out there, followed by aggressive marketing and persuasion tactics to make the customer buy, is becoming less successful and more redundant. We cannot simply operate a business in a way that makes the customer fit our product.

The return to a more socially conscious approach to business is gaining traction and reaping lasting rewards. Forbes has recently warned that businesses who ignore a certain trend will not last beyond the next 4-7 years. So it would appear that critical re-evaluation is required to make sure we are truly serving those who seek our solution, and not the other way round.

Forbes was alluding to something that can be described as strategic philanthropy – combining making money through doing good. Of course this has many different expressions.

I recall when I first came across this expression in my mastermind group I was unclear as to its meaning. However, since childhood, I had been clear about wanting to deploy my gifts and talents in a way that could help humanity on a larger scale, particularly those who were stuck in survival issues.

But beyond spontaneous acts of giving and small projects along the way, I struggled to weave them both together for so many years, due to low income.

The idea of working simply to have a decent lifestyle and acquire material things for my own pleasure always felt short of appealing. People mattered to me more than things, but I did dream about having abundant resources so that I could contribute to humanity in a big way.

However as much as I got into structured giving such as sponsoring a child in Kenya and the Philippines for a few years, along with spontaneous acts of giving, I struggled with the money side of things, largely due to low income. I was by some descriptions a broke philanthropist.

My money story and struggles meant that there was always this glass ceiling in my mind just above my head, and for many years I felt trapped by that.It restricted my capacity to give.

I remember a few years ago listening to Angelina Jolie’s acceptance speech when given a humanitarian award. She spoke of two things – gratitude and pain. Her gratitude was that she considered herself fortunate to have grown up in an environment where she could discover and develop her gifts and talents; at the same time to use the resulting wealth to support her philanthropic desires, which go beyond merely giving money to support causes.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

Her pain was that somewhere across the globe was a woman with similar gifts and talents, except that she lived in a refugee camp, with no voice to her name or roof over her head; for whom each day was about working out how to stay alive and keep her children alive.

When I heard this it made me cry because it spoke to a similar gratitude and pain that had been an undercurrent within me for so many years. However, my cultural and educational upbringing along with the many messages coming out of the church I attended at the time, such as money being the root of evil, rendered me in a state of constant conflict. Beyond being broke I felt that my dream was broken. Maybe you can relate.

But the dream never left me, and as I look back over the last 10 years I can see recall the turning point and processes that have brought me to where I am now. It has been fascinating to observe how I managed to evolve and close that gap significantly.

Like many business owners, I got stuck in a time for money trap with my coaching services, which limited the delivery of value, and whilst I have since rebranded, the real journey that prefaced this was so much deeper, and one of personal transformation based on acknowledging and building around core values in a deeper way.

Out of that, I have now birthed my own inspirational book Breaking Free. I also find myself co-hosting this year’s Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit with Tom Matzen, speaking with highly successful entrepreneurs who have learned to combine doing good with making money at the same time.

There were no coincidences in how this opportunity came to me. Furthermore, it has provided another platform from which to evaluate how I develop, shape and direct strategic philanthropy in my own business.

If you want a context to re-evaluate your business given what Forbes has said, please why not join us at The Strategic Philanthropy Global Summit. Come and get inspired, connect and collaborate. It is free to register and listen in live.

The recordings will be available for sale thereafter, with half the gross proceeds going to KIVA microloans. You can see all the details here for the event which kicks off on Tuesday 13th June 2017. See you there?

Anita Narayan

In the last 48 hours I, amongst others, lost a dear colleague and friend Audrey Brown, who passed away after a protracted battle with a recurring illness. It is a deeply sad moment, as the reality sinks in.

This is my heartfelt tribute and gratitude to an inspirational lady who exuded love, fun, beauty and grace. We hadn’t known each other that long. We met at a TV Presenter’s course in the early part of this year. In fact the group that we were part of had a special connection because of the respective journeys that bought us to this point, and how we wanted to grow and serve others beyond by developing our skills. It was a coming together that was refreshing and went beyond conscious awareness.

During the 5 days of training and into the months beyond, further conversations exchanged, and it seemed we had journeyed far due to the sharing of a common journey that had at its core, the desire to inspire and help others with our gifts.

There is a huge part of me that always hopes that those with that kind of heart will prevail beyond the average number of years a person may have on this earth because we live in a world that needs more inspiration than ever before, in my opinion. This kind of giving is bigger than any one person has to give, and today we lost an inspirational leader.

Audrey would be too humble to describe herself in such terms, and as highly evolved as she was, she still wanted to attend a recent workshop I held, such was her hunger to continue to learn and grow, and be a catalyst for spreading inspiration.

Not many people could genuinely exude so much life and inspiration with a strong, determined spirit whilst battling in the dark with illness. One of our last conversations was how adversity develops strength and character.

For me Audrey shone even brighter in the dark hours of her illness. Even from her hospital bed she was sharing her journey and sending out video clips as her energy allowed, displaying a warrior mentality, a never-say-die attitude, with a continued encouragement for us all to live inspirational lives.

Like an evergreen, she consistently saw the beauty in human beings, she was gracious and so giving. Even in her hour of need, she would cheer me from the sidelines when I shared my inspirational message in its various forms.

Audrey was fun loving, full of life and selfless in her sharing. She sprinkled exuberance for life everywhere with remarkable consistency. She was reconciled with adversity as a part of life, not an intrusion on life, and she met it with boldness and grace.

So as a human being, I feel that loss and sadness deeply. We all grieve in different ways and maybe do battle with difficult emotions, whether they be rational or not, and each person processes and expresses things differently.

However what is also emerging in me very strongly is how this amazing human being showed up in the world with such consistent love and inspiration, the light of which no dark hour could put out. She has held a mirror up to us all, in effect, to show what the human spirit is capable of.

It is this which rises within me, and as surely as the night time gives way to the dawn of a new day, this will galvanize me to continue to develop the best version of me, so that the world, including me, can thrive. She has left me richer than when we last spoke and for that and all I have expressed above, I am truly and eternally grateful.

May we all continue that legacy, take on the baton of inspiration, and share and serve others through our gifts and abilities, to leave this world in a more beautiful place than we found it, just as she did. I feel her cheering on through her spirit.

This was one of the first things I wrote about in Breaking Free. Recently we have had ample evidence  of how things can change in a moment. In these last few months alone we have witnessed the sudden deaths of Prince, Victoria Wood and Jonah Lomu. I mention those three because in the eyes of many they died well before their time

During their lives we were blessed with the heights of talent in music, comedy and sporting prowess respectively.

Of course changes can occur to the upside in sudden fashion too. That promotion at work, meeting the love of your life, winning the lottery, and the list goes on.

It is somewhat sad to observe that for many of us there is something about adversity that causes us to take a step back and evaluate what is important in our lives, particularly in the face of great loss.  It is a pain motivated pause which goes deep.

Why does that not happen so much when we experience the heights of thrilling events. Some would argue that they do reflect in similar depth, and yet it is rare to find such people who do so.

I recall getting a somewhat intuitive nudge on this subject while driving home from work one day. The statement ‘things can change in a moment’ was like a continuous play record in my head.

A day later one of the worse storms to hit Britain came unannounced, followed by a stock market crash within the week. That was in 1987.  The weather and the economy had converged into one devastating storm that affected countless lives

I recall at the beginning of my major transformation this was prefaced by great tragedy that caused me to find new solutions to what my life was lacking.

Although I could not appreciate it at the time it turned into the perfect storm as it was the turning point for a new lease of life for me, a journey I might not have awakened to and experienced if everything was seemingly ok

What my personal and observed experiences have taught me is that in any given moment things can happen externally to bring sudden change.  However we can also bring about significant change through the power of decisions and our inner creativity

None of us truly know the number of days we have on this earth. Therefore it is important to make the life in our years count.  So if you feel that life is holding you back in some way from living your dream, know that in any given moment you are a decision away from breaking free.

I know it because I lived it out and wrote about that journey in the book and song Breaking Free. Do not wait for something to happen to cause you to pause, reflect and redirect your life towards your dreams. Instead come from within and know that you have the ability to create something of great value and fulfilment in your life.

My favorite sport is football, but it is International Rugby that provides the backdrop of today’s reflection on becoming unstoppable. When I recall the rugby days of David Duckham, Andy Ripley, Roger Uttley and Bill Beaumont, followed by a new generation of stars in the 90s such as Will Carling and Johnnie Wilkinson, one man rises above all others as a global star and rugby legend.

In recent months, rugby and indeed the sporting world paid tribute to the great Jonah Lomu, whose life sadly came to an end at the young age of 40 years in November 2015

He has been heralded globally as someone who changed rugby, combining strength, speed, agility and intelligence on the wing, like none before him, to outrun, outwit and seemingly swat his opponents out of the way, en route to scoring multiple tries. He graced the world of rugby and crowd attendances rose, as many watched a man in action described as ‘unstoppable’

The tendency among so many people watching such success is to observe with a mild or greater degree of envy that they may have been bestowed with luck or special qualities. What many fail to appreciate about Jonah Lomu was the huge obstacles he had to get by to obtain such success.

I am not so much referring to his childhood and exposure to domestic violence at the hands of his father, or the gang culture that exposed his troublesome youth. It is the critical illness he overcame on a day by day basis to grace the rugby field and the world with a display of skill, speed and power that had not been seen to this degree

Jonah Lomu was diagnosed with a critical illness only 2 years after breaking onto the international scene at 19years old in 1994. Many will remember his world cup performance in 1995 against England where he scored 4 tries. His diagnosis came in 1996 requiring him to take time out for treatment. Yet this man refused to lie down and bow to the medical implications of his condition, choosing to live his rugby dream.

The illness would rob him of muscle strength particularly in his legs. Yet strength is what he worked on both inwardly and outwardly, and belief is what he cultivated. He made a comeback in 1997, and won an Olympic Gold in 1998. His last international appearance was in 2002 before his illness worsened, requiring him to have a kidney transplant in 2004. He made it his goal and dream to play in the world cup of 2007

An Insight into Jonah Lomu

 

I do not know many people who could go overnight from prolific rugby star to struggling to walk to the fridge due to the loss of muscle and nerve conduction in the legs, and then defy medical expectations of becoming wheelchair bound to make it back to the rugby field. Jonah made a comeback in 2005 but unfortunately did not manage to secure a super rugby contract, which denied him his dream of a World Cup place in 2007. He retired from the international scene and was later desrevedly inducted into the Rugby Hall of Fame

He was not supposed to be able to have children, yet the impossible happened when his wife gave birth to two children in 2009 and 2010, and he devoted himself to becoming the best possible dad, whilst contributing to world peace through sport via the Champions for Peace Club, What does this man teach us about unstoppability?

When you are unstoppable, you are not void of challenges in life, neither are you immune to doubts and fears. Challenges can come in many forms on many levels, physically, mentally and otherwise. What separates those who are unstoppable from those who are not is the capacity to get back up when life knocks them down, to navigate challenges with a perspective that allows them to keep moving forward to achieve their goals, dreams and lifestyle aspirations .

Such people are characterised by a ‘never say die’ attitude. Rather than ignoring the obstacles they look at what lies beyond and adjust their focus accordingly until they reach thir desired destination. Their resilience and resolve do not decrease in the face of challenge, rather they increase.

Somewhat ironically his body could not hold his undying spirit, and yet his life continues to breathe life into those who wish to become and remain unstoppable, myself included. When people who read my book Breaking Free remark about my irrepressibility, I can only humbly testify to the undying influence on my life of such icons as Jonah Lomu from whom I continue to learn how to be unstoppable. You can get his Jonah Lomu’s Autobiography from Amazon too.

 

 

 

I was not surprised to read a recent newspaper article which cited a survey indicating that out of 2000 British people surveyed, the majority remained in fantasy mode about it. The wishful thinking averaged 2hrs a day and many dreamt of having a different lifestyle that would be healthier and more fulfilling. Definitions of that varied but included health, money, travel and career.

Alarmingly 80% of those surveyed admitted they were not living the life they truly desired. Even more shocking was the acknowledgement that by 32years of age they had given up on their dreams, and were living with regrets, as if their life was effectively over!

Although this was a small size study compared to the overall population the percentage of people writing off their dreams and living with regrets was very high. Throughout my coaching days I have witnessed more people than not who speak in such terms, as if life has dealt them a rotten hand of cards.

What I find sad is that the scenario described to me need not be the case. If you look around you at any object like a chair or a car, these things started off in the mind of man so to speak before they showed up in physical reality. They did not manifest out of nothing.

When I put this to many people they accept the concept. However when it comes to translating that concept to create a different reality in their lives, they falter in their acceptance. Why is this so?

It is one thing to accept that other people can produce a different reality through the creative use of imagination. It is another thing to believe that you can do it. This is a big gap I find in so many people.

The second observation I would make as to why people become somewhat paralysed when changing their reality is that their response reflects the conditioning of society and significant earlier experiences that have shaped them to think this way. They hold toxic beliefs that they are not good enough, worthy enough or lucky enough to have the life they desire.

By conditioned response I mean that someone could come up to you and prove something as true, yet you would still reject that truth. Take Christopher Columbus for example. He discovered that the world was round and scientifically proved it, yet it took a long time for the world to accept this as they had believed for so long that the world was flat. Such is the power of conditioning.

The good news is that it is possible to recondition yourself in support of your dreams. Much of my coaching is working with people at a deeper level of their being to awaken them to their true creative nature, so that they can mobilise the inner resources they already have to change their lives.

When I think back to where I was at 32years of age, life had dealt me a tragic set of cards that could have derailed me completely from the life I wanted. Somewhat ironically it was during those years and during the dark night of my soul that I awakened to what was inside me that could transform my life. My life is so different now.

It is somewhat ironic that adversity turned out to be the teacher that awoke me to my inner resources, and I share my discoveries in my book and song Breaking Free, to inspire and help you change the percentages of your dream life in your favour. I have also put some complementary videos together on my website, for you to help you design a framework and blueprint to change your life. So what are you waiting for? Give yourself the gift of change for a better life.